Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Shamed

Sometimes Muslims like to get around and complain about how they are made out to be the bad guys, and how the media portrays them so bad.....heck one of my last posts was about the same thing, however sometimes I am so ashamed to hear the acts of other Muslims. I am not so ashamed at the fact that someone claiming to be Muslim does these things, because there are people from every religion that are idiots....however when someone USES the religion to claim somehow excuse there pathetic act-that is when I am ashamed. Recently there was a young girl in Yemen that died three days after her wedding, because she was so violently raped repeatedly by her husband.

A link to a news article here:

http://gulfnews.com/news/gulf/yemen/dead-yemeni-child-bride-tied-up-and-raped-says-mum-1.610450

To sum up what is there, a 23 year old man trades his sister for his friends 13 year old sister in marriage...to save money. The sisters where not asked their opinions nor had a say in the matter.

--there is the first thing that is against Islam, every woman has a RIGHT to marry or refuse marriage, as well as the right to a certain gift or amount of money that she chooses. I dont have a problem with a 13 year old marrying a 23 year old....as long as they are both consenting. We have 13 year olds having babies therefore I do consider that an age that is "marriageable" --IF THEY WANT!

After the marriage he tried to consummate the marriage but he couldnt. It doesnt say exactly why except that she refused his advances. So the man took his "bride" to the hospital to ask for tranquilizers so he could "prove his manhood"---yeah a man that has to drug a woman to sleep with her is NOT a man. It also says that her mother also visited and tried to coax her into letting him.

--I dont think I even need to talk about how this is against Islam, but I will. There is no time limit to when the marriage needs to be consummated, its normal in many Muslim countries for people to be married for years while the woman stays with her parents and they dont consummate it. It has to be consensual!!!!!!! NO WOMAN IS TO BE FORCED--EVEN BY HER HUSBAND...which actually he wasnt because she didnt want him in the first place, so legally he wasnt her husband to begin with. I dont even know where to begin talking about how sick a person has to be to drug someone to be able to sleep with them. I mean, if you want a woman to love you. It would be easier to spend a few weeks being gentle and kind and making her love you that she would willingly sleep with you than rush her to the dr. to drug her up. Also, why would the mother even know, these things are supposed to be PRIVATE, men and woman are not supposed to discuss these matters with others unless there is a problem---this wasnt a problem just a lack of feeling and compassion from a sick sick man.

So, he was refused the medicine. Thank God for that, however why was this not reported?? There can not be many people in the world who would find this behavior normal? So instead the man does the next best thing.....he buys performance enhancing drugs (why, would you do that when you cant even sleep with her without them???), goes home, ties her up and rapes her screaming. The next day she cant even walk and he carries her to the hospital, the doctors said she was ripped and he has to let her heal for 10 days. Now AGAIN, she is sent home with this sicko. Her mom visited her and found her in and out of consciousness and whispered to her mother what happened. The mother confronted the husband and he told her that the girl was "possessed" and he was going to take her to a healer later. She was dead a few hours later. Autopsy reports give evidence that she was raped further after the doctor gave the 10 day judgement.

--Even as parents you would let your daughter be married against her will, with non of the rights she should have been given, to find her in a state like that, HOW HOW HOW could you even go home?? How could you even let her out of your site?? Thankfully the man is now "in police custody" but who knows what will happen.

This kind of thing could happen almost anywhere, rapes and forced marriages, sex slavery, etc. is a world wide problem. However, the thing that baffles me is if this happened in another country, Germany for example....the police would have been notified as soon as the girl was in the hopsital, or as soon as someone found out that she was forced into marriage. Islam has liberated woman sooo much that I am FURIOUS to see that people would allow this to happen. Woman have so many rights in Islam that I am shocked and ashamed to hear that something like this could happen by people who call themselves Muslim. AND THEN they have the AUDACITY to say that its ok because Muhmmmad (Peace and blessings be upon him) married and 8 year old so that makes it ok!!!!--If that is what they see when reading about the marriage of Muhammed and Aisha then they have turned a beautiful love story, a marriage that was full of love and respect into nothing more than the story we have read today. Making Muhammad equal to this man---IF a person says something like that, than I feel they have maybe left the bonds of Islam.

InshaAllah my next two posts will be womans rights in Islam and then the story of Muhammad(peace be upon him) and Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) to those of my readers who dont know.

8 comments:

  1. As-salamu alaikum

    SubhanAllah, this is the first time I read about that story (even though I've heard several similar things happened in Yemen before - subhanAllah).

    I have seen many things here in Algeria (al-hamdu li-llah they weren't as grave as the one you wrote about) that I am now completely convinced that people should really be attentive to differentiate between ISLAM and MUSLIMS when writing / speaking about Islam or Muslims... it's so sad that we (Muslims) don't seem to be able to practise what we preach and that there is so much intolerance concerning fundamental rulings of shari3a.

    May Allah increase our knowledge and help us that call ourselves Muslims to truly live and act as He ordered us to - amin

    Was-salamu alaikum

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  2. Asalmu aliakum,

    That is absolutely disturbing. I had to skim your post cause I do not have the stomach to read these kinda things. Not excusable at all.

    I'm glad you wrote about it, though. We need to let others know that this is NOT acceptable.

    Can't wait to read your next 2 posts..(Hint, hint, :)
    bateeks (msu)

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  3. Salams

    The story gave me such a chill !! How could he do such a thing ?!
    This is the kind of people who just ruin the reputation of Muslims .

    May Allah forgive us ,

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  4. That is a very shocking and sad tale. It will be hard to forget what that poor girl suffered. Fortunately, when I was working in Yemen, most of the people I met seemed to have happy and normal marriages. I guess there are deviants in every country, and hope that this one gets the full punishment of the law.

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  5. salamunalaikum.

    Sad to know all these things.

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  8. This was a very interesting post. I don't pretend to know anything about islam or muslimism, but it was very interesting to read your take.

    I don't buy into that whole 'muslims are bad because they are muslims', there are sickos all over this world.

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